Finding Wonderland

If it’s done often, it’s not a mistake, it is behaviour.

Everyone loves you when you let things slide. Once you create boundaries, you become the most hated.

Creating healthy boundaries means you are unable to be manipulated or controlled.

At your very best, you still won’t be good enough for the wrong person.

At your very worst, you’ll still be worth it for the right person.

People will judge you regardless of what you do, so do what you want.

If you like someone, tell them.

If you miss someone, tell them.

If you love someone, tell them.

We make a mess of love trying to prove that we don’t need one another.

It's not love that we’re afraid of, it’s the fear that everyone else is just like the last person who hurt you.

Tell them everything you ever did & let them love you anyway.

Most of the problems in your life are due to two reasons; you act without thinking or you think without acting.

Feelings are just visitors, let them come & let them go.

You’re not sad, you’re just feeling sadness for now.

The happiness of your life depends on the quality of your thoughts, the quality of you actions & the quality of the people you surround yourself with.

Your relationship isn’t a community project, it doesn’t need to make sense to anyone but the two of you.

The worst use of imagination is anxiety.

The best use of imagination is creativity.

We do not choose who we love, our souls chose for us.

Our souls already know each other, it’s our bodies that are new.

The hardest prison to escape is your own mind.

You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only option you have.

You’re not here to fit into the world, you’re here to create a new one.

We are all made entirely of flaws & good intentions.

Every single human is capable of being toxic.

People will judge the healed version of you because you are a reminder to them that they are still stuck in dysfunction.

I am not what you think I am, you are what you think I am.

The realest of people have very few friends.

Some people are investments & some people are bills.

Some people are radiators & some people are drains.

If you don’t focus on your own healing you will continue to be the worst parts of both of your parents.

Other people liking you is a bonus. You liking you is the prize.

People will wish you the best then hate you when you have it.

The only people you need in your life are the people who need you in theirs when you have nothing to offer them but yourself.

Don’t ever take advice from someone who is not where you want to be.

If you have to tell them to carry the bricks, they are not the ones to build with.

Show me your friends & I’ll show you your future.

Forget the past but always remember the lessons.

Everyone in life is going to hurt you, you just have to figure out which people are worth the pain.

You cannot speak butterfly language to caterpillar people & expect them to understand.

Growth is painful.

Change is painful.

Nothing is as painful as staying stuck where you don’t belong.

Embracing change makes life flow more smoothly.

If you need to start a new chapter in your life don’t wait for the page to turn itself.

Whatever you are not changing, you are choosing.

Even if you could go back, you wouldn’t belong there anymore.

All storms are temporary.

Your intuition is your compass.

Your inner peace needs you to say no often.

It's not a connection if you have to force it.

Nothing much bothers those who have escaped hell.

The people you meet are either reflections of a repeated cycle or guides towards a new start.

Shade often comes from trees bearing no fruit.

Driftwood will float away on its own.

Going above & beyond means someone benefits from taking advantage of you.

If you don’t make time for your wellness, you’ll have to make time for your illness.

You do not decide your future, you decide your habits which create your future.

Toxic masculinity is abusive & controlling.

True masculinity is protective & loving.

Toxic femininity is sexualization & manipulation.

True femininity is nurturing & creative.

Be happy for no reason because if you are happy for a reason, that reason can be taken away from you.

When you realize everyone is a projection of how they feel internally you’ll no longer take things to heart.

Today you may be important to someone, tomorrow you may mean nothing to them.

People will disappear from your life if your energy requires them to rise up, not everyone is willing to rise & no one can maintain a façade for long.

There are many moments in life when you think you won't survive, but you do.

The harder your path, the higher your calling.

If your path requires you to walk through hell, don’t stop.

You were built to handle the pressure that comes with your calling.

Your inability to trust is a result of people systemically letting you down.

Hyper-independence is a result of trauma.

Trauma isn’t just the bad stuff that happened, it’s also the good stuff that never happened.

Trauma comes back to haunt you as a reaction, not as a memory.

The ocean doesn’t apologize for its depth & the mountains don’t apologize for the space they take up.

Neither should you.

People who tell you the truth are trying to free you from a prison you don’t even know you are in.

Society has always been this abundantly evil, you are just now finally aware of it.

Pay attention to what people tell you out of anger, they’ve been dying to tell it to you.

Stepping our of your comfort zone only feels scary because it is unfamiliar, not because you are incapable.

Let go of the picture of what you thought it would look like & learn to find joy in the story you’re living.

Surround yourself with people that make your heart smile, only then will you find wonderland.

Dee

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